Pressing toward the finish line
Today the last major hurdle was cleared for Baby K's adoption. We went to court this morning at ten in the morning and listened as his birth father relinquished his rights over the phone. It was really bittersweet. As the judge asked K's birth father if he understood what he was agreeing to sign and ran him through a list of agreements, my throat began to close up thinking how hard this must be for him to do. I wanted to stand up in court and thank him for his boldness to come to the hearing instead of just ignoring it and staying out of K's life forever. I am grateful that there will be openness in our adoption and the K will know about his father and even receive letters, pictures and meaningful things from him. I don't want K to be left in the dark about his birth family.
I am thinking about the future, choosing not to be selfish and not just thinking about what I may want, but what K will need to know as he grows up. He will need to know about his medical history, and his birth parents likes and dislikes. And most importantly he will need to know why his birth family was not able to care for him at the time of his adoption. I want him to be fully aware of these things while at the same time knowing fully how awesomely much he is loved by us. He is SO wanted. I don't even want him to doubt these things. There will be hard times, but we will cross those roads with grace and love and sensitivity.
Someone once told me that if order for us to gain a child through adoption, someone must go through the grief of losing a child. It is very bittersweet.
I am so grateful for Baby K tonight. As I tucked him in I prayed over him, but I also prayed for his birth family and parents whose hearts may be aching tonight.
The lawyer stated today that she wishes for K's adoption to be completed by the end of the year. I think that would be a pretty spectacular Christmas present, don't you think? Oh and by the way, that's only four months away!!
Last year I was not wanting Christmas to come because I didn't know what "after Christmas" held, but this year Christmas cannot come soon enough. 4 months until we reach that finish line... I am running at full speed, free and clear of any hurdles.
I am thinking about the future, choosing not to be selfish and not just thinking about what I may want, but what K will need to know as he grows up. He will need to know about his medical history, and his birth parents likes and dislikes. And most importantly he will need to know why his birth family was not able to care for him at the time of his adoption. I want him to be fully aware of these things while at the same time knowing fully how awesomely much he is loved by us. He is SO wanted. I don't even want him to doubt these things. There will be hard times, but we will cross those roads with grace and love and sensitivity.
Someone once told me that if order for us to gain a child through adoption, someone must go through the grief of losing a child. It is very bittersweet.
I am so grateful for Baby K tonight. As I tucked him in I prayed over him, but I also prayed for his birth family and parents whose hearts may be aching tonight.
The lawyer stated today that she wishes for K's adoption to be completed by the end of the year. I think that would be a pretty spectacular Christmas present, don't you think? Oh and by the way, that's only four months away!!
Last year I was not wanting Christmas to come because I didn't know what "after Christmas" held, but this year Christmas cannot come soon enough. 4 months until we reach that finish line... I am running at full speed, free and clear of any hurdles.
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